To have a healthy life, you sometimes have to deadhead, prune, and even cut back to your roots.  Sometimes it feels refreshing; sometimes it's a little hurtful or sad. But think on what happens to rose bushes when they are pruned – they grow back stronger!

Often we think of cutting back in terms of buying and accumulating stuff or spending money. We also can cut back on our outside commitments and distractions.  However, we might have to cut out people, places, and things.

For example, people who are trying to quit smoking must find other non-smokers who can help support them in their goal.  The same is often true for alcoholics and drug-abusers.  These groups of people can't be with the same people or go to the same hang-outs as before because it doesn't support their new habits. 

Any healthy lifestyle choices that we make require an evaluation of the people and places in our lives.  If I want to make a change to get more exercise, I need to stay away from people who sit at home to watch TV and fill my life with active people. If I want to ensure "clean language," I don't need to be around people or watch shows that use offensive language. If I don't want to encourage, participate, or spread gossip, I need to stay away from people who do.

Think of the garden of your life. What do you need to prune? 

Until next time – find a way to show as well as tell your child, “I love you.”

My best,

Tess Haranda

Personal Life, Career, and Executive Coach

www.successwithtess.com